My friend is going out with this dragon lady (urban dictionary that phrase if it leaves you confused). That’s all I need to say. She’s creating problems that I didn’t even realize could exist. I think she’s an idiot… for a myriad of reasons, on multiple different levels… and no… She’s not an idiot for creating problems… she’s an idiot because she’s intellectually shallow and superficial… although with all the ‘things’ she surrounds herself with, one would never guess. Money usually connotes intelligence and some degree of success… but when its been handed to you… and you never had to work for anything… except manipulating the people who can provide you with more of it… you usually fall pretty short of intelligent. On the contrary, you become a self absorbed, ego centric who demands all the attention of those who can meet your needs… be it material, emotional, or mental.
And my friend? How could this happen to him? Well… this is his first real relationship so theres not much he can compare it to. This is how it goes as far as he’s concerned. And he loves the physical gratification of being with someone. No one can blame him for that. Unfortunately he has become blinded… something that happens to every good man at least once in his life. Women have the ability to create illusions… they are powerful at seduction. This is nothing new… and hes not the first victim. and after all… she ‘loves’ him… all it took was two months of living in a living purgatory full of retards and under achievers to provide the perfect panacea for her insecurities and emotional needs. Maybe I’m being too unkind.
She’s a great girl… I mean… if I was going to buy the facade she works so hard to fabricate on a daily basis… yes… she is a great girl. If I didn’t have a nagging feeling she was being so artificial I would have only genuine feelings. But my intuition doesn’t afford me with that peace. There is immense dissonance and it robs me with those good feelings. Oh well.
I could elaborate here the variety of reasons why I’m so agitated. Not at their relationship, but her character. I shouldn’t care really. And I normally wouldn’t. I would simply marginalize her until she was completely out of my peripheral. I wouldn’t have to be unkind at all. I just ignore the people who raise obvious alarm bells. The problem is that my good friend is dating this person. So she’s constantly around me. Actually… she does a good job commanding his whole attention so it’s not that she’s constantly around me… it’s just that whenever Im around him, she follows. So naturally… my feelings about her character are hard to ignore. One thing that’s hard for me to do is pacify people. She demands it… being the youngest child from a divorce torn family who makes up for their guilt by shoveling materialistic compensations at her, its understandable…to a degree. Everyone around her oohs and ahhs at all her nonsense. Her inane comments… the dull ones that she tries oh so hard to articulate… her broad knowledge about everything… her depth about nothing. She tries so hard to live up to these stereotypes and expectations that she feels will instill a degree of worth in her life. Her attempts, outward and obvious as they are, only prove to reinforce the complete lack of value she sees in herself. Now… I will say she has plenty of value… but her observable behavior, behind the facade of course, suggests totally the opposite.
Silence is golden. Its acknowledges a level of depth beyond the moment. Some people fail at this.
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William Dare 