Paternal Dialog

Reads from the bottom up. Typical dialog within the family. The older I get, the more outspoken I become. 



I hate to say it, cause it can be offensive to someone so emotionally invested, but you’re in a cult. Religion is a cult.. You’re sooooo far deep, you’re psyche is almost unsalvageable. Your humanity has been reduced to metaphysical babble about supernatural divination. Any book possesses utility for those who subscribe to it because It creates uniformity among the psychologies of its members. But the moment a person forfeits their own ability to coin meaning for themselves, they are trapped and stuck in a prescribed box that limits their ability to see possibility beyond the herd they identify with. They become fearful and scared. I admit. I am scared of other boxes besides my own. I prefer to be an individual, to reject convention, but social integration requires that I adopt the values of my peers to function. You do it. I do it. But I don’t pretend that my values are static and absolute. I acknowledge the fallibility of my perspective and experience and the necessity of adapting to an ever changing world.

Anyway. You scare me sometimes. Actually, all the time. Religion is scary. I don’t prejudice against any one religion, or cult. They are all tyrannies of the hearts and minds of men. Whether it’s a benevolent or malevolent tyranny at any one time doesn’t matter.

I just want to tell you that if you didn’t believe, didn’t buy into this dangerous, antiquated dogma, the sun and moon and stars would remain in motion, the natural world would continue along just as it always has, you will not spontaneously burst into flames. You would not become morally corrupt, since morals, afterall, are the instinct of the herd, and I’m pretty sure your instincts will continue along just as they always have. You might have an existential crisis: the weight of responsibility for yourself, and being dependent on no one, is jarring when you’ve been subservient to external authority for so long.

There is no one Christian standard. There is no absolute value. There are always exceptions.

Religion’s sole mission, like any institution that serves to enculturate and socialize its members in an attempt to create a uniform world view, is to reduce cognitive dissonance and create coherency of experience. We appeal to others for information and we need to know that they possess the same value system as us if we are to communicate effectively and efficiently. Cognitive dissonance is man’s existential paradox.

As the world changes, a man must change his mind. But this is the hardest thing of all.

Regardless of the origin of your values, you’re American and have been socialized by many of the values that have influenced me. So long as that continues being the case, I have no doubt we’ll have the ability to communicate and relate on some level.

And you’re my father, so I owe you my life. No amount of conflicting values would prevent me from wanting to reach a compromise. Nothing I believe in is worth losing my family.

Love you always,


My Father:

I am really surprised by your comment below…Yes, it can be difficult to be objective when a person from one generation looks at a younger generation and sees the changes as a negative…

We all have our worldview, including you…It’s funny how you can judge and label us as being “old”…”Old people always…”. How is it that you are immune to your own bias and subjectivity as a young person who doesn’t know what you don’t know?

I agree, the ills that we see in our society are not new to humanity…quite the contrary, the ills we see can be traced back to to the begining…back to our sinful nature and rebelliousness towards God…However, the ills that we see are increasing in the United States of America. From where we started, we are on a downward spiral. Yes, we have always had sin and rebellion, even in the USA…But sin has certainly increased in our country…We are reaping what we have been sowing for many years…

I believe we do have the ability to objectively measure our progress or decline…However, it depends on the standards that we use. For example, how do you define “Glory Days” and “no better days”…In order to make a judgement, you must have a standard. What standard do you use? I presume a standard that you have created in your own mind…

Could it be that the real difference between your “younger view” and our “older view” is the standards that we use to judge the condition of our society?

1. The younger generations are atheistic…You have rejected God altogether…You believe in evolution, a complete fairy-tail. You have created your own gods by worshiping creation…

2. Rather than worship God, the younger generations worship yourselves, other people, and a whole host of other created things..”claiming to be wise, you have become fools, and exchanged the glory of God for images resembling mortal man and animals…”

3. Your younger generations use the words “God” and “Jesus Christ” as curse words…rather that sacred words reserved for the creator of the universe…

4. Younger generations give no thought to going to church…They believe “organized religion” is evil…But, hanging out in a bar, getting drunk, getting high and getting laid, are all ok…”organized sin” is just fine with your younger generations…

5. The younger generations do not know what it means to honor your mother and father…This concept is foreign to you…Parents exist to spoil and provide for your every want. Parents are givers, and the children are the takers…The word “honor” has lost it’s meaning in the younger generations…

6. The younger generations places very little value on human life…They abort more babies, murder their parents, murder family members, and kill for kicks…after all, they are simply the a result of random, purposeless, accidental mutations over billions of years…there is no such thing as “meaning” and “purpose”, these are simply “man-made constructs”…Those terms are undefinable in a Godless, evolutionary, naturalistic, universe…

7. The younger generations think nothing of sex outside of marriage, having sex with multiple partners, homosexuality, and other deviant behaviors. It’s all about giving yourself pleasure…It’s all about “me” and what “I” can get from “you”…Marriage is “just a piece of paper” to the “enlightened” younger generations…Love is a feeling, love is lust. “Commitment” means I will do something until I change my mind”…

8. Your generations thinks nothing of stealing, Whether it’s justified or not…Theft in all it’s forms are ok…as long as you have what I want, I can take it from you…

9. Your younger generations have no problem lying…Telling the truth is for “old people”…Truth is relative anyway…why be concerned with telling the truth when you can lie and get what you want…It’s all about me…

10. Your younger generations want to do the least, and still have everything that their neighbor has…They want the easy life, want what everyone else wants, has no idea what hard work or sacrifice means, but they do want a nice car, cable tv, all the partying they can fit into a week, the best clothes, the latest electronic gadgets…and anything else that fancies their eyes…But they have no idea how to work, produce, add value, and sacrifice…

The sad truth is that we “the older generation”, although we knew the 10 Commandments and tried to live by them, we have failed to teach our children to fear God and have failed to teach our children the importance of obeying the 10 Commandments…We have compromised, forsaken our God, and are solely responsible for raising a pleasure seeking, God-hating generation…The law of reaping and sowing is at play…and there can be no finger pointing…

We all must repent, turn away from our sin and rebelliousness, fear God, and throw ourselves at the foot of the cross, beg for mercy and grace, and place our faith in Jesus Christ our redeemer and Savior…

My prayer is that you will come to your senses, humble yourself, acknowledge your sin, repent, and put your faith in Jesus Christ, who is your only hope…Nothing else in this empty, satanic world can save you…

With a love that can only come from God…
Love, Dad

You sound like you’re getting old… old people always think they’re generation was somehow better, or more upstanding. There were no glory days, no better days. Those days are a fiction. You know the song???

Life is about attitude. There will always be poor, always be depravity, always destitution. It comes and goes, but it always lingers. On the same token, the will always be love and kindness and caring. We’re the most socially conscious and educated generation that has ever lived.

Anyway ❤

My mother: 
This is awful….

One thought on “Paternal Dialog”

  1. I read this piece at the perfect time. I am constantly having a generational and cultural conflict with my parents. Sometimes it clouds the bigger picture. Thank you.

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